Life After Loss

Tuesday, November 26, 2024

The loss of a loved one can feel overwhelming. It creates a pain that lingers long after the initial shock, a deep ache that doesn’t easily fade. And the truth is, it shouldn’t. Grief is a natural response to loss, and there is no timeline for healing. It’s important to remember that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to grieve, there is only your way, and that is perfectly valid.

Grief can create diverse emotional responses. Understanding the various responses to grief is important in communicating acceptance to those bereaved. The loss of a loved one can often feel overwhelming. Sometimes those grieving can experience a pain that lingers long after the initial shock, a deep ache that doesn’t easily fade. Grief is a natural response to loss, and there is no timeline for healing. It’s important to remember that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to grieve, there is only your way and that is perfectly fine.

 

Common Symptoms of Grief

Grief affects us in different ways, and sometimes, the emotional toll can feel just as physical as it does mental. You may experience:

• Sadness that feels like it will never end
• Anger or frustration at the unfairness of the loss
• Changes in sleep—either sleeping too much or having trouble sleeping at all
• Feeling numb or disconnected from those around you
• Difficulty concentrating or experiencing brain fog
• Physical pain that may seem unrelated to the loss but is part of the grief experience
• Questioning your faith or the meaning of life

Know that all of these reactions can be a normal part of the grieving process, and no matter what you’re feeling, your emotions are valid.

 

The Personal Journey of Grief

Everyone processes grief differently, and that’s okay. Some people may find comfort in quiet solitude, while others may lean on their friends, family or professional support. Some may express themselves through creative outlets like journaling, running or art, while others may find that talking about their feelings with someone helps to alleviate the pain.

There is no "one size fits all" when it comes to grieving. It’s about finding what helps you navigate the emotions you’re facing. If you’re not sure where to begin, remember that it’s okay to ask for help. Whether that means reaching out to a friend, a counselor or participating in an activity that brings you peace, support is available.

 

Mental Health Resources at Oklahoma State

At OSU, we understand that dealing with grief can be a complex and isolating experience, but you don’t have to go through it alone. There are numerous  mental health resources on campus designed to support you during difficult times:

• Student Counseling Center: Offers individual, group, grief and substance abuse counseling. The first six sessions are free to OSU students. The SCC also offers a walk-in clinic for convenient, immediate support.
• University Health Services: Offers evaluation, treatment and management for common mental health concerns. Students can meet with a mental health consultant to determine the best care approach.
• Reboot Center: A calm, welcoming space where students can relax and recharge. You can check out resources like massage chairs, weighted blankets, iPads, journals and more.
• Togetherall: An online community platform available to OSU students, providing a safe, anonymous space to connect with others and share your thoughts. It’s a free service that can offer comfort and support when you’re ready.
• BetterHelp: University Counseling Services has partnered with BetterHelp to offer virtual or text-based counseling services for OSU students. Students are eligible for 6 free sessions.
• UCS Podcast: Featuring tips and strategies from OSU Clinical Counselors and interns, the UCS Podcast provides practical advice on managing stress, grief and emotions during difficult times.

 

You Are Not Alone

Grief can be overwhelming, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. The OSU community is here to support you—whether that means leaning on your peers, talking to a counselor or simply taking a quiet moment for yourself.

It’s okay to grieve in your own way, and it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. Be kind to yourself during this time, and remember that healing doesn’t have to be a linear process. Take each day one step at a time, and allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling without judgment.

If you or someone you know is struggling with grief, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Whether through the Student Counseling Center or other resources on campus, help is available. You deserve it.

Learn more about grief counseling or how to schedule a counseling session here.